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Don’t be a sucker, make sure you prepare and stick to your guns…

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30 Oct 2014
So you've been through the interview process, met your new boss, met other members of the team, received and accepted their offer. Everything is going swimmingly, well all you need to do now is resign and let your current employer know you're leaving.

I often find that people who have never resigned from a job before, have the impression that resining is just 'going through the motions' and straightforward .Occasionally, that may be the case but most of the time you have to be psychologically ready, determined and fired up to get yourself through a potential counter offer. It's key to remember that the crux of a counter offer isn't your boss throwing a few more quid at you to get you to stay. It is actually the calculated and deliberate attempt by your employer to challenge your decision, your motivators and ultimately your sense of judgement (it's not unusual for me to hear candidates describing counter offers as patronising!).

I will not attempt to teach you to suck eggs and go through the specific reasons of why you should never take a counter offer; I'll let these guys at The Wisdom Journal do that. Instead I'll offer some tips about what to think about when sitting down with your boss…Always take your resignation letter with you for your first conversation to tell your boss you're leaving, don't wait until later  to do it. As not taking it in gives the impression that you're not that committed to your decision and will only encourage your boss to try and persuade you to stay.

Plan and select the reasons you will give your boss when they ask you why you're leaving. Fundamentally you don't have to leave on a bad note, so why sit there and moan at your boss about X, Y, Z. When instead you could just keep it focussed on the positives of your new role. Do not get involved in a tennis rally with your boss. This links to the point above, keep the reasons positive and short. If you say "I'm leaving because my new job at 'Company A' has better career progression opportunities” your boss will respond with "I've heard the career progression opportunities at 'Company A' are not that good” and you respond with "well my new job at 'Company A' has better career progression opportunities” and your boss offers the same response and so on…

Be strong and remember the reasons why you are doing this, let the positives of your new job overwhelm the negativity and guilt your current employer may try to pour over you in attempt to get you to stay. More importantly, take everything they 'promise' you with a pinch of salt. Ask yourself why are they only doing this now? Are they doing this for themselves or for me?

Lets be honest, resigning from your job isn't the most exciting or enjoyable conversation you're going to have, but don't let nerves stop you from doing your preparation and giving yourself an easy ride.

Tell us about your experience. Have you been faced with a counter offer when you handed in your resignation? Were you persuaded to stay? Or did you stick to your guns?


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